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Hot husband (HH) and I were at a party not that long ago. It's a party that we attend annually so we know most of the folks there.  (Admittedly not very well but we run in the same circles as some of the peeps there.) ANYWHOOOOOOO...Every year it's the same people talking about the same stuff to the same people.  Kinda boring if you ask me but it's for a good cause so we go. Besides I don't really get out that much anymore so I was excited about it this time. This is the first year that my story has changed.  It changed drastically too. I left a great job at a fortune 200 company to stay home with our boys.  The people that had heard came over to (what felt like) console me.  "Oh wow- be that was rough."  {{Ummm... not really since it was my decision.}}  Those who didn't know asked for the obligatory "how's work going?"  Jaws dropped when I told them that I left to stay home with my boys. I heard several things "In this economy, you left a good job like that? are you crazy?" and "You couldn't have just gone part time?" Yep,No and Nope.  I left, I'm not crazy and I couldn't/didn't want to go part time. (I think mothering type magazines give an unrealistic view about it being easy to just ask/tell/expect your employer to let you work a full-time job with a part time schedule-but that's another topic all together)

I saw one woman's eyes nearly glaze over before I could even finish saying "I'm a stay at home mom now." She looked like a trapped rat looking for an escape route. This is the same person who in years past couldn't get enough of me.  What I realized that night is that she couldn't get enough of the idea of me.  This year I was different.  A different person in her eyes. She wanted to run screaming- but since polite society looks down upon that (why? we should totally be allowed to do that when we don't want to talk to someone!) - she nodded, smiled and totally zoned out all the while trying to give appropriate interjections like: "mmmm"  "ahhh"  "bet that's different." Her date looked equally as uninterested and lucky for all of us they were saved by another couple. Lucky for them because clearly they didn't want to hear my story and lucky for me because I really didn't care to tell them.  Not for any other reason than that they didn't want to hear it.  All that to say that some people don't know how to talk to you once you are no longer the "you" that they know.  Or that they thought they knew.  Because folks that really know me know that I've always wanted to stay home with my boys.

Who wouldn't want to spend as much time with these two munchkins as humanly possible? Annoying party lady obviously! 

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Photo credit to SC Photography
Matie
1/21/2014 07:21:28

People like that are never satisfied. They feel as though they have to keep going or risk belong left behind. Good thing you only have to be around them once a year.

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Jen
1/21/2014 07:32:14

Good riddance!

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Elizabeth
1/21/2014 08:18:55

The job of raising two precious little boys is the most important and rewarding job that you could ever have. Your children will agree with me also some day. You are making a huge differance in their lives. I for one are so proud of you for being such a good mama.

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Messica
1/21/2014 08:40:20

She obviously has NO idea what a tough job it is to raise kids. As for the ones who threw the economy in ur face, u should've told them that u aren't as materialistic as they are & therefore don't need a ton of STUFF to have a happy life. Bet that would've shut them up!!

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Heather
1/21/2014 09:45:45

Clearly you should have asked to go part time while wearing your business wear shorts and a blazer! I think some people forget what a gift being a stay at home mom is to you and the kids. I LOVED my mom being a stay at home mom. Can't imagine growing up any other way. You're doing a fabulous job and seem so much happier since you made the job change:)

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Bub
1/21/2014 11:12:30

I remember those times & still have them occasionally! Î worked in radio news & everyone talked to me about whatever was happening. Then suddenly...I knew nothing. I was staying home. Not worth talking to. Couldn't possibly havthing interesting to say. Well, here's what I say: f$&@ them! :-)

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Bub
1/21/2014 11:14:18

*supposed to say "have anything". Oops.

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